Self -love or pleasuring
Self-love or pleasuring (masturbation), often referred to as self-pleasuring, something most men partake in from time to time. For a lot of us, slowly playing with our genitals with the aim of an orgasm. Is there more to it you ask yourself?
Masturbation over the years has been seen as a sin!
A cure for masturbation was marketed by Kellogg`s corn flakes, something you may not know? Self-pleasuring or masturbation over the years has been considered sinful with tales over the years you would grow hairs in the palm of you hand or go blind. To this day many men carry the shame around self- pleasuring or masturbation. Many men will find time to privately self- pleasure, so not get caught in the act or heard by anyone. This may limit the amount of enjoyment you feel and the orgasm intensity you have.
Mindful masturbation and self-pleasuring
Tantric masturbation or mindful self-pleasuring, reverses this bringing much more enjoyment and pleasure into your practice. With mindful self-pleasuring or masturbation, you need to be fully aware, and notice the physical feelings, sensations, and thoughts you are having during this practice. Many of us are tempted to seek sources of arousal from outside the body by slipping some porn on. There is nothing wrong with this, too much of this and you could loose connection with the sensation we are feeling or our bodies.
Your step by step guide
Steps below to help you with becoming more aware, give you extra pleasure when practising your self-love ritual.
- To help your mind and body relax set aside a time when you will not be interrupted
- Control your breathing! Listen and focus as your breath flows in and out of your body, deep full breaths will heighten your sexual feelings and help you stay in the moment.
- Let your mind explore inside your inner world. Close your eyes and focus your mind as you travel from head to toe looking over your body for any aches, pains, tension, or any worries that are there. What are you thinking? Stay focussed on your body as you caress yourself and masturbate.
- Using every part of your body. Focusing on just the genitals will only limit one way of pleasure the body feels. Using various speeds, pressures, edging techniques, and strokes, introducing objects, toys, or materials such as silk, feathers will wake up the nerve endings in your skin and increase sensuality and sensitivity through the body.
- Experimenting and being patient with your body as you start to explore. It may take some time to find out what your body does not like or what excites you, let then sensations build up.
- You may feel frustrated or shameful this is a normal feeling. When these arise do not stop and carry on experimenting, breathing throughout as you notice these.
The Genitals
A welcome part to your self-pleasuring practice is touching the genitals. Listed below are some practices to help bring pleasure and mindfulness to this part of your body:
- The goal of not having an orgasm will bring you more awareness to the genitals allowing you to explore each part
- Try different pressures, speeds, and strokes. Being creative and bringing in different things to your practice, for example why not try the lightening the fire technique, use both hands and rub the genital as if try to start a fire with a piece of wood. Feel as you move your hands in opposite directions on your genital increasing and decreasing the rhythm.
- Let your sexual energy build up, when you feel like you are going to orgasm slow down, releasing the pressure. When the urge for you to orgasm has worn off increase your speed again, keep practising this and you will find you get a more intense and deeper orgasm.
- To strengthen the pelvic floor learn some deep breathing techniques. Allowing sexual energy to channel throughout the body. This practice will help being able to achieve a full-body orgasms.
